In a relationship, you need somebody who’s going to call you out, not somebody who’s going to let everything slide. You need somebody who doesn’t want to live without you, but can. Not somebody that is dependent, but somebody who is stronger with you. A relationship is two people, not one.
There’s two types of anger one is dry and the other wet and basically wet anger is when your eyes water and your voice shakes and I hate that cause I feel weak when I’m crying while angry I like dry anger when your face is like stone and your voice is sharp I guess wet anger shows that you care too much and dry anger means you’re done.
This is the best description ever
These are forms of male aggression that only women see. But even when men are afforded a front seat to harassment, they don’t always have the correct vantage point for recognizing the subtlety of its operation. Four years before the murders, I was sitting in a bar in Washington, D.C. with a male friend. Another young woman was alone at the bar when an older man scooted next to her. He was aggressive, wasted, and sitting too close, but she smiled curtly at his ramblings and laughed softly at his jokes as she patiently downed her drink. ‘Why is she humoring him?’ my friend asked me. ‘You would never do that.’ I was too embarrassed to say: ‘Because he looks scary’ and ‘I do it all the time.’
Women who have experienced this can recognize that placating these men is a rational choice, a form of self-defense to protect against setting off an aggressor. But to male bystanders, it often looks like a warm welcome, and that helps to shift blame in the public eye from the harasser and onto his target, who’s failed to respond with the type of masculine bravado that men more easily recognize.
BOOOM. Read this if you are a dude, please.
Its hard for men to understand why women dont get loud & angry because they havent spent their entire lives being reprimanded whenever they take up too much space. (via pluralfloral)
I hate that feeling when you’re not necessarily sad, but you just feel really empty and every little thing gets to you and everyone that talks to you makes you angry and you want to punch everyone in the face
Statistically, a woman is more likely to be hurt by a man than she is to ever be eaten by a shark, hit by a car, be attacked by a bear, crash in a plane, or be bitten by a spider. When a woman expresses fear of any of these events, she is still seen as a rational person. When I tell people that I am afraid of swimming in the ocean because I’m afraid of sharks, they accept it almost without question. But, when I tell people that I’m afraid of men, that men scare me more than sharks and spiders and freak plane accidents all combined, I immediately lose their respect. I am considered elitist. I am considered sub-human.
it’s sad that some douchey assholes think that emma watson’s heforshe speech was “hate speech” and “anti-men,” and it’s sad that their form of retaliation is threatening to release nude photos of her. prank or not, real or not, this threat (and the very real countdown website) and their inability to understand the point of her speech are just more examples of why we, as a world, need feminism.
some may say that she won’t have much influence over the UN because she is not some global political leader, because her position at the UN is not one of importance. but as someone who is recognized, loved, and respected by the entire globe, she has the ability to reach and influence young women and men worldwide.
i loved her speech because many will argue “emma grew up privileged and has no idea what it means to be discriminated,” but she tells us that even in her very privileged upbringing, she faced and dealt with inequalities not unlike those that much of the world deal with. on this level, we cannot use the “other people have suffered more” argument, because while it that may be a fact, it was not emma’s fault that she ‘suffered less’ or was ‘more privileged.’ just the fact that she faced similar discrimination shows how prevalent gender inequalities are.
i come from what can be considered a privileged background. but i have faced discrimination at every turn in my life thus far, whether it was in school, at home, or with peers. gender inequality does not discriminate based on your social, economic, or racial background, although it may manifest with different levels of severity. this is a problem that everyone faces, no matter where you are or who you are.
who knows how far this campaign will go, but here’s to hoping that it will be at the very least be a another step in the right direction.
The frightening thing is that, like most of their other campaigns against women, they see themselves as just warriors fighting for what’s right. This is primarily because they firmly believe that any woman who speaks up on women’s issues is completely disingenuous and only doing it for the purposes of self-promotion, and that any man who does is looking to get laid, because they actually cannot possibly imagine a scenario in which someone would genuinely give a shit about women.
Members of this board, as well as “Men’s Rights Activists” in general, tend to go apoplectic at even the most mild implications that women might be human beings. For them, this is simply “not allowed” and must be punished swiftly and severely, as they appear to believe that feminism is the one obstacle in the way of all these pathetic neckbeards getting their pick of supermodel girlfriends who obey their every whim. The goal is to make it as uncomfortable to speak out about misogyny and women’s issues as possible, which is why they go to the wall in terms of harassing women like Emma Watson. At the end of the day, this is the crux of it. It would be sad if it weren’t so vile.
Because of course she was.
i think the hardest part about applying for jobs and internships right now is that i don’t actually know what i want to do, so it’s basically a lot of me thinking that maybe that’s what i want to do, but not being able to justify why i want to do it or why i’d be a perfect candidate for it.
like, i’m sure i could do a decent, if not good, job in any of the positions i currently am looking at. but then i think, do i really have the skills needed for this job? what if this job doesn’t teach me anything? would working this job actually be a waste of my time? what if this job is actually stuff i have already done before and don’t want to do more of?
i know it’s better to try it and figure out that [this] isn’t what i want to do for the rest of my life, but when it comes to having to write a cover letter to apply for the job, it just doesn’t work as well if i’m half-assing the eagerness.
i guess i’m done trying to write cover letters/fix up my resume for now.. and i’m just gonna try to calm down and destress.